April Every Year

My favorite picture and the way I like to best remember him.

My favorite picture and the way I like to best remember him.

April 26, 2011.

It’s a tough date for me. Not just me, everyone that loved him.

‘Him’ is my cousin Eric. He might as well have been my brother. As far as I’m concerned he was my brother.

What a rough day.

As I type this my heart is pounding near out of my chest, heart in my throat throbbing. Most of the year I’m fine. I do have my moments. Days where I feel that stinging feeling slapping me in the face. The reality, the unbelievable reality that I won’t have privilege of knowing him in this life anymore. I still feel it as crisp and clear as I ever did.

Those days happen and they are becoming less throughout the year.

Except for this month. Except for this month and the anticipation of this month.

I see April coming from a mile away. Continue reading

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My 5 Favorite Songs (right now); 11.2.12

So not all my songs are going to be ‘new’ or from some hip new group. The list is just five songs that I have really been feeling recently.

I’m still on Kid Cudi (and have been for a while now) and Imagine Dragons is on my 5 again.

On with the list; Continue reading

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My 5 Favorite Songs (right now); 10.7.2012

I love music. All kinds of music. I’m also no expert and so when I tell someone of a particular song that I really like and it’s a pop song, or a Taylor Swift song (I don’t care what you think), or some old rap-rock song and I get a dirty look or sneer from some self-proclaimed music expert (aka music snob) I couldn’t care less.

Actually it kind of makes me smile because it annoys the shit out of them that I dare like a song that isn’t up to their own personal standard of music and what is actually good, or not.

Music is art and it is subjective and therefore I can like any music I want and I don’t need a reason to hold off the music snob(s) that pervade the music scene and proclaim that any particular musical artist is garbage because they don’t live up to their snobbish standards.

You want to like Ke$sha? Fine! Taylor Swift? Limp Bizkit? Linkin Park? Fine, fine, FINE!

You know why it’s fine? Because if you listen to a song and inside your mind and body it makes you feel something positive, then you like it. Don’t be ashamed, just let it ride. Don’t let anyone else ever tell you that you shouldn’t like a particular artist or group because they are popular or a “sell-out” or not “real music”.

If it makes you feel good inside or it gives you some sort of relief or comfort, then just like it. Like it for as long as you want.

With that said, here is my first installment of 5 songs I am currently liking/loving; Continue reading

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Smoke Breaks

I don’t smoke. I don’t care if other people smoke either, just so long as it doesn’t infringe on me.

I mean, you want to die that’s on you. I choose life.

Anyway, there are there two women at my current job that smoke and take multiple (and I mean multiple) smoke breaks a day. To the point they are probably not at their desks for a good hour a day just for these smoke breaks. It’s generally annoying, not going to lose my sh*t over it, but annoying nonetheless.

Well, this situation reminded me of a former situation that was almost nearly identical to this current one.

About 12 years ago I worked at a put supplies store called Pet Supplies “Plus”  in Albany in the University Plaza on Western Ave. Unlike most, I kind of actually liked working there, but that’s besides the point.

There were two women that I worked with that used to take an ungodly amount of smoke breaks. Just like now, it was annoying then too. Continue reading

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Happy 76th Birthday to Jim Henson

Anyone who knows The Muppets knows Jim Henson.

The mastermind of those genius, caring, lovable little creatures would have turned 76-years-old today.

Happy Birthday Mr. Henson, you continue to make me smile.

This song makes me happy.

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Ever feel like this?


How I feel after having the last 5 days off and having to come back to work…

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Reconfirming what I already knew

I knew that my son was, is, and always will be the love of my life.

I knew that, I really did. It just became over the top when my wife left for the weekend on a romp to Seaside Heights, NJ for her best friend’s bachelorette party. She left on her own adventure straight away from work. I was alone with my son from Thursday evening when I picked him up from daycare, until Sunday afternoon.

I won’t say they were best the best days I’ve had in my entire life, they didn’t push aside the day I asked my wife to marry me (a yes if you weren’t paying attention), the day we made her acceptance legit (our wedding day) and the day my son was born, in no particular order are stand alone in my life story (thus far), but they were by far the best days I’ve had in a long time. Continue reading

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Family Walk

It was sporadically rainy yesterday after work, but my wife and I wanted to take our son for a walk. The kid loves being outside.

So much so that if he is outside and playing and you say the words “go” and “inside” consecutively he is libel to turn into the demented kid from Pet Sematary (thank God we don’t have a scalpel). Ah, stories for another day…

So as soon as we arrived home from work we wrangled up the dumb dog, threw his leash on and out we went.

As we walked out the front door one of the cats ran out, which isn’t normally a problem because we let our cats outside all the time, but it was Psycho (yes, the cats name is Psycho). This cat is quirky and crazy, and always has been hence her appropriate name.

Since she was little and I first started to let her outside to roam, and make my neighbors (in three separate neighborhoods now) hate me, and I happen to head outside to take a walk, well, she follows me. I’ve tried to chase her off by running at her, yelling at her, and throwing rocks at her (not to hit her, but in her general direction to scare her off). I’ve done all these things in broad daylight. People have seen me do all this and I am sure they didn’t see the cat and if they ever see me again I’m just going to be that crazy guy that used to yell and throw rocks at the road.

She’s followed me a half mile from an apartment where I lived to a local Stewarts Shop, multiple bus stops and into the car. There have been times when I was going to end up on a busy street and with her following. For fear of her getting hit by a car I was begrudgingly forced to return home, BECAUSE MY CAT WAS FOLLOWING ME.


Anyway, with the rain hanging around we kept the walk to a short, 10-15 minute jobber around the block. This is a walk I could make in no-time, but 2-year-olds have a way of taking their time. Little legs may contribute to the problem.

As we started up the side street I turn back to wave at Will Jr and see how he’s making out (he was holding my wife’s hand) and what do I see? The damn cat.

Short story long, she literally followed us the entire walk. She walked, ran, and pranced right along side of us for the majority of the stroll.

She had a fine time running onto everyone of the neighbors porches, under their cars, and actually flirted with entering a house with an open front door.

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Thoughts That Never Leave

(First let me say, I apologize for this post being a little all over the place. This topic makes me a little emotional and so I get a little scattered.)

There are so many things that happen in a person’s life. Some people have more bad than good, some more good than bad, some just have balance. No matter what though, everyone has moments in their life that stick with you. Again some good, some bad.

Some even elicit multiple emotional reactions. I want to talk about one of those moments in my life.

My cousin Eric died in an accident in April last year. Even typing that right now brings forth such strong emotions I don’t think I could begin to explain them. Almost all of the time when his name is brought up or something reminds me of him (a song, a funny part in a movie, or just the sense than I miss him) I almost immediately feel my chest tighten slightly, I pause for a second to compose myself because if I don’t that feeling in my chest rises to my throat and becomes a pit, a terrible awful pit, and from there it slides right in behind my eyes and that’s when my eyes begin to glaze over.

I openly admit I am an emotional person. Sometimes I just need a good cry. If he read that sentence just now he would proceed to tell me to “stop being a woman.” I’d then glare at him and he would let loose his cackle of a laugh. Continue reading

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Newt hungry!

I knew he was looking a little extra tubby lately.

Good ole Newt Gingrich, always eating things.

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